Rufus Bernard Whitaker, Jr. was born on April 14, 1936, to Delois Washington-Whitaker and Rufus Bernard Whitaker, Sr., in a loving home that laid the foundation for his compassionate nature.
Rufus graduated from Winter Hill High School in Douglas, Texas.
After graduation, he worked as a mechanic at a car dealership, honing his skills and building a strong work ethic. In 1962, he moved from Texas to San Diego, California, where he joined Nellism Construction as a Cement Mason with Local 744. His dedication and hard work led him to start his own construction company, employing his closest friends and contributing positively to his community. Rufus also spent his free time doing concrete work in his neighborhood.
In 1969, Rufus met the love of his life, Shirley Mae Cretchain-Whitaker. They built a beautiful life together, and Rufus embraced Shirley’s two-year-old son, Sammy Pickney, as his own. Two years later, they welcomed their daughter, Deloris Ann Whitaker, into their family. Rufus also loved and cared for his other children; Debbie, Jeff, Rufus, and Sabrina Whitaker. He was a dedicated family man who took great joy in spending time with his grandchildren and great-grandchildren, showering them with love and affection.
Rufus was a pillar in his community, known for his generosity and kindness. He often gave back to those less fortunate, feeding the homeless and lending a helping hand whenever he could. His acts of service and care were a beacon of light to those around him, and his legacy of love will continue to inspire those who knew him.
Rufus passed away peacefully on October 18, 2023.
Rufus was preceded in death by his parents and his brother Ural Ben Whitaker.
Left to cherish his memories are his beloved wife Shirley Mae Whitaker, his children; Deloris, Sammy, Debbie, Jeff, Rufus, and Sabrina, his grandchildren; Tylecia, Tiana, Tyrasia, Shaela, Alexa, Sametria, Samyra, and Lee, and his great-grandchildren; Gianna and Timayah, along with others.
Rufus B. Whitaker, Jr. was a man who lived his life with kindness, generosity, and love. He was a devoted husband, a loving father and grandfather, a respected businessman, and a cherished member of his community. His thoughtfulness and selflessness have left an indelible mark on the hearts of those who were fortunate to know him. As we remember Rufus, we celebrate a life well-lived and a legacy of love that will continue
to inspire generations to come. His memory will forever be etched in the hearts of all who loved and knew him.
